ADVANTAGE, NOT YOU!
Here is a very difficult point to make. So in an undefined relationship mostly the guy has a stronger hold most times but at the crucial moments no matter how well placed you are in the situation you will not have it. That is the art that makes the undefined relationship a success. Although i still place it second in the list. So it is a simple game plan. You know there is a saying in cricket that if you cannot get the batsman out, start feeding him balls in the zone he loves and then suddenly in his rush he makes a mistake and he is out. The plan is very similar here just that here you will get a bad decision from the umpire every time you are playing well. So basically it’s like this if you plot a graph between advantage vs. correctness for something the girl is wrong. On the x-axis you have correctness and along the y-axis you have advantage. You start at the top of the x-axis and the girl is on the negative axis. You start to question and you slowly are rising while she is pretty constant with a slight dip maybe. Then you start to lose your temper while she is still quiet. Here is where technically you think you are just soaring exponentially while she is just gone and then her silence starts to get to you, you are thinking why is she not reacting or maybe you’ve just taken it too far and you begin to soften and thats where everything goes down. With no reason you are just falling not even like a pack of cards but at a speed faster than the speed of light just then, to throw in the hydrogen bomb she starts to cry and there you are even the graph is too small to assess your fall and her meteoric rise. There you go the advantage is then actually never with you.
GET-TOGETHER
Now this is basically another form of PDA but really is what leads you to the final show-down. Well I’ll get to that right after that. So in PDA you should not touch or pass comments in public. But a get-together is different. Here you tend to have a set of people who know you. So really the question that you guys are dating is a constant threat. So here is where you’d want to be safe. Well no that’s where you are given the options. So a drinking get-together is like everyone drinks and at the end when everyone is high the two end up sharing looks and feeling each other. Its fine everyone is drunk and out of their senses. This is what leads you to the final stage of it all.
Now this is what really makes the undefined relationship, undefined. This is the last of it. So while texting, flirting and dating can still save you; arousal can just kill every thought for you. Now I am a guy and I have sexual wants. The texting, flirting, dating and get-togethers play indirect and direct parts in the arousal. Arousal is a very difficult thing for a guy to hold on to. A strong guy can ward off at best two advances but that’s about it. So this is the most difficult thing to explain. A girl who has an ex-boy friend about whom she keeps talking about, you should go totally and take the advances or this is the time when you should set things right and start defining. Anywhere in between you are bound to be dumped in due time. A girl dating a guy if she comes on to you, you can take your time you know you are the winner every time. So basically you have won is what you believe. You get the fun and if you are smart you know that you will get it till you want it. Just that you need to stay detached. This is not easy partly because of the other steps and partly because of you. So you reach a state where you get used to it and then starts the desire for more. This man's eternal let down is what will be the final nail in the coffin.At this point comes the withdrawal.
THE WITHDRAWAL
This is where you realize that you are an idiot and have been used. So when the two of you move away from the common ground you begin to realize that everything just changes. The messages stop, the calling stops, the muahs and the miss yous stop but then most importantly you begin to lie. Now such things are basically in such a relationship what makes it out standing. You realize you were enticed into it all by the girl. At some point both of you felt something and then it reaches a crescendo way before it should when the girl starts to drift leading you to a pre-mature climax. You feel a bit bad and so you start to make an effort to get back but then you guys are too far and yet too close in that undefined zone where you really cannot get back. That is where the relationship undefinably comes to an undefinable end.
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